Today, I’m going to do a little soul-cleansing vent-session. It’s been brewing for awhile, and I need to get y’all’s (surely, that’s grammatically correct) opinion on something.
So here’s what’s been nagging me. I’ve been doing some writing on behalf of one of my favorite brands. They’ve been sharing my posts, and it has all gone just swimmingly. The marketing team has been delightful, the products I’ve had the opportunity to work with are divine. And, I think I’ve done a good job of showcasing the brand. But, here’s my issue.
Every time a picture of mine is shown on this Facebook page, other moms jump at the opportunity to tear me down.
I chose the wrong cereal to photograph. The staged photo of my kids in the car doesn’t have the chest strap high enough. My kid should be in a rear-facing car seat. My kid shouldn’t be eating grapes that aren’t cut up. I shouldn’t be feeding my kid anything that’s out of a box. I mean, call DSS already won’t you? These kids are abused.
Sure, it’s easy to criticize someone when you’re behind a monitor. No one’s ever been that mean to my face. But, I wonder… When people are posting those things on social media channels, are they thinking about me being a real person?
You know what’s funny? My kids haven’t had that cereal I got criticized about, but it looked great in the photo. And I definitely let them eat it when it was ready! (It was also one of my most-pinned photos I’ve ever had. So there.) Was it any worse than some of the other treats they occasionally get? Nope, not in this house. So yeah, my kids had a special yogurt pop with colored cereal in it. Get over it.
Oh, and yes. I should have had the chest strap higher on my kid in the car seat. Ok. That was a good suggestion. Thanks. But, rear-facing? I’m not familiar with many large 2 1/2 year olds in a rear-facing car seat. And the grapes? My kid’s got grape-eating down. But, maybe yours doesn’t. That’s fine. Don’t give your kids un-cut grapes. Good decision. Why are you yelling at me for giving them to my fully-toothed kid though?
So yes, I’m irked. Since when is motherhood all about judging? Who are we to judge if I got an epidural to birth a baby? Don’t ask me how long I breast-fed my baby if you are asking because you’re hoping you did it longer. And, if you don’t give your kids anything to eat that’s out of a box? Good luck with that. Seriously, good luck. It’s going to be really hard to leave your house for the rest of your lives, but I wish you luck.
My point is, as long as you are doing your best to provide for you and your family, I’m happy for you. None of us are perfect. Some days you make the kids food from scratch, you do crafts, sing songs and romp to your heart’s content. Some days you throw your kids a bag of cereal, let them wrestle on the floor and hope everyone comes out alive. I mean, we’re all moms. We all have awesome moments and ones with a little less sparkle. But, always we love our kids.
And, we should always support each other. Because, if I didn’t have my friends in this wild world of motherhood, it would be a lonely, lonely place. A place where I might believe I was actually the bad mom I’m accused of being by random strangers on Facebook. Darn the meanies.
So here’s my question… What’s your hot-button? What do you think moms unfairly judge each other about?